“The most profound relationship we’ll ever have is the one with ourselves.” – Shirley Maclaine
Everyone needs a useful reminder from time to time. Even if you think that you are strong enough to make it through your lives without any additional positive affirmations, it’s a great idea to give yourself a few helpful reminders anyway. Reminders can do a big deal in increasing your confidence and self-esteem.
The question is: how do positive affirmations work?
According to Kelly Rudolph, a hypnotherapist and certified life coach, “The reason we feel better when speaking these positive thoughts as verbal statements is because the positive energy of good thoughts and pictures in our mind raises our vibrational frequency and causes chemical changes in our body that tell us we’re happy.”
It’s also good to remind yourself of certain things when you feel like life is simply going against you, or when you feel like things are too hard to handle. Be sure to have these reminders nearby for when you need them.
Here are 10 simple reminders every single woman needs to pay attention
1.Your Relationship With Yourself Is The Best In Your Life
Sure, romantic relationships are a great and enjoyable experience. It is good and healthy to have someone else support you and to feel loved and appreciated by them. However, no relationship with another person will ever outmatch the relationship that you have with yourself. You know yourself better than anybody else does, and you know what you really need and deserve. The relationship you have with yourself is absolutely the most important and relationship that you’ll ever have.
2.All Your Other Relationships Depend On Your Relationship With Yourself
Whether these outside relationships are familial, social, romantic, or platonic, you still won’t develop a happy and fulfilling with others if you are careless of the relationship you have with yourself.
“It is not selfish to care about yourself. Compassion for yourself means showing concern for your own feelings as well as for others. Treat yourself the way you would treat your children or your best friend—with gentleness, concern and caring,” says author Deborah Ward.
You need to treat yourself the way that you want others to treat you – and once they see that you treat yourself good, they’ll have a natural affinity and respect for you.
3.Visit as many different places as you can
Life, obligations, and money, can get in your way of traveling which is quite normal! However, if you have the financial resources to do so, be sure to travel whenever you can. It’s amazing and enrichening to explore new places and experience new cultures there. Absorb new local traditions and allow yourself to experience the world outside your own comfort zone. It will benefit your soul as well as your overall health.
“Active travel is proven to lower health risks such as diabetes, metabolic syndrome, high blood pressure, heart disease, colon cancer, breast cancer, depression levels and more…,” says author Lea Lane.
4.Appreciate and strengthen your relationships with other females
Society and mass media want to emphasize the wrong notion that women cannot be friends with other females because of competitive cattiness. This simply isn’t true. Establishing, strengthening and appreciating the relationships you have with other women will give you an irreplaceable support system. If you’re a younger female, it’s crucial to have relationships with older women.
5.Spend less time searching for a partner, and spend more time reflecting on the things in a relationship that matter to you
When you spend too much time in search of a person to love you, you may start to relate to the first person around the corner – and this person may not be fully capable of meeting your individual needs. Put your focus on what you really want in a relationship and the qualities of a person that are vital to you.
Author and relationship expert Margaret Paul, Ph.D. says, “When two people come together to get love rather than to learn, heal and share love, there is a strong possibility that their relationship won’t last…”
With that being said, when you have a sound idea of what you want in a relationship, then you can find a person to fill your needs and desires.
“If you tune inside and honestly ask yourself why you want a relationship, and you find yourself on the first list rather than on the second, do not despair. You can learn how to love yourself and fill yourself with love so that you have plenty of love to share with a partner,” adds Paul.
6.Have the courage to face your loneliness
Many people today are afraid of being alone. However, their fear has its origin in the fear of being alone with themselves. If you notice that you are terrified by the very thought of being alone, it’s time to face that fear head-on. Stop giving this fear the authority to control your life. Once you can identify and see through that fear of loneliness, you will be able to live your life at fullest.
7.You build the foundation of the rest of your life in your twenties
So what if you haven’t figured everything out right now. No one has their entire life put together or planned in their twenties. Your twenties are a time when you plant the seeds of the future you, a time when you can experiment, change your major, your career choices, your lifestyle – change into the person you want to be. Be still as you are only planting the seeds at this moment. You’ll have more than enough time to reap the benefits in the future.
“In your 20s, it’s easy to rush through life to get as much as you can as quickly as possible. We like to push ourselves to the limit, throw ourselves in the fire and never think we are never going to get burnt. But we do. Instead, think about what makes you happy. You are more than your job. You are a multi-faceted person. Slow down, breathe, and take the time to realize you can create your own happiness in your life, and that doesn’t just mean in your job,” says Amanda Slavin, CEO & Founder of CatalystCreativ.
So never let anybody tell you that your life is wasted by your 25 – it’s only the beginning of the adventure called life.
8.Don’t rush to find “the right one” at all cost or you might end up with the wrong person
Take your time when searching for the right one. If you rush yourself into a relationship just because you are desperate to find the perfect prince charming, you will only enter all types of relationships that you shouldn’t. It is much better to simply wait for the one to come to you – so you don’t miss them.
9.Meet as many people as you want
Go out, meet people, date whomever you like, get intimate with them – don’t worry at all about what others are going to talk behind your back. That’s their problem, not yours. The important thing for you is to meet as many people as you want, and don’t inhibit yourself from being intimate with others just because of societal norms and expectations. This kind of an approach towards relating can help you discover the qualities in people that impress you.
10.Enjoy doing things alone
Why not go out to dinner by yourself. Or spend the night watching a great movie at the cinema. You should definitely go out and do all sorts of things by yourself with absolute pleasure. When you do things by yourself, you have the chance to focus more on the experience itself than you will on the people that accompany you.
“First, figure out what makes you feel good. It doesn’t matter what it is, but become aware of how you feel when you do things. Find out what makes you feel good and do it, as often as you can. Feeling good is all the permission you need to do what you love to do. And the more you do those things, the happier you will be,” explains Ward.
There is enough time to do both, but it’s always good to have some time for yourself.
These 10 reminders will allow any single female to have a more fulfilling and content life. If you’re a single woman, you won’t be focusing on the things that society says you should be doing. Instead, you can live your life in a way that is most suitable for you, and use these small reminders whenever things start to get rough.