It is not surprising at all that married women who gave birth to children are under a great deal of stress. After all, these women have a whole set of roles they have to on a daily basis. Namely, next to being a wife and a mother, every married woman with children has to be the cook, teacher, doctor, event planner, house cleaner, and so much more. However, a 2013 survey by NBC’s TODAY of more than 7,000 U.S. mothers found that nearly half of the subjects find their husbands more stressful than their children.
The survey included more than 7,000 women in the United States, and their answers not only revealed how stressed American mothers are, but also what the main cause of that stress is. On average, these mothers rated their stress levels as 8.5/10, with 46% of the participants claiming that they had to deal with more stress because of their husbands than they did from their children.
One of the factors that caused these women stress was revealed in the fact that around 75% of the mothers reported they do most of the regular household chores as well as the major part of the parenting. The conclusion is that only 25% of these females consider their husbands are equally involved in the parenting and other household duties or do the majority of it, leaving the mothers with more than their fair share.
Another common cause of stress that these women reported was feeling like they didn’t have enough time in the day to get everything done that needed to be done, in part because of insufficient support from their husbands. It should surprise you a bit that this was particularly true in mothers who also worked outside of the home yet still did most of the household duties.
Many of these women said that some of their stress is caused by the simple fact that their husbands acted like overgrown children. This situation forced them to have even more responsibilities around the household since they needed to care for their husbands as well, although it was their husbands that should have provided more support.
This is not the only study that advocates the claim that women are facing more stress due to their husbands than men do because of their wives. According to a research study conducted by researchers at the University of Padova in Italy, husbands who lose their wives have faced a rapid deterioration of their health, but when a wife loses her husband, her health actually shows signs of improvement.
The most important thing both husbands and wives can do when faced with these issues is to ask the simple question: “What can we do about this?” The truth is, there are many ways how you can solve this problem, no matter how stressed out a wife may be or how childish her husband may act. Both spouses need to be willing to approach the situation and be prepared to take whatever action is necessary to solve this growing problem.
Most importantly, a conversation in a crisis is the initial and essential step. Women need to open up to their husbands whenever they are feeling stressed about how the household and parenting duties are managed, and husbands must be willing to genuinely listen to those matters and be prepared to work together with their wives in search for a solution that will work for the entire family.
One of the best ways for a married woman to reduce the stress caused by her husband is to divide equally the household and parenting duties. To start, married couples should make a list of all the daily, weekly, and monthly household chores that need to be done and make sure that each partner is pulling their weight.
Wives need to learn to have more trust in their husbands when they are doing the household duties. In many cases, this is the main reason why a woman is doing everything around the house. She doesn’t believe her husband is fully capable to do it correctly or the way she would like it to be done, so she just does it instead. Whenever a husband agrees to do a particular household chore, it is vital for the wife to step aside and let him do it, even if it’s not done “perfectly.”